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Re: Life in America - I made the move.
« Reply #5720 on: June 23, 2018, 03:13:13 pm »
Sterkte vir julle in die moeilike tyd.

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« Reply #5721 on: June 23, 2018, 03:38:01 pm »
May your dad rest in piece.

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« Reply #5722 on: June 23, 2018, 08:40:29 pm »
My sincere and heartfelt condolences to you,Mr and Mrs Zog.
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Re: Life in America - I made the move.
« Reply #5723 on: June 23, 2018, 08:51:37 pm »
Strongs Mr and Mrs Zog!

May Grandpa Zog R.I.P.


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« Reply #5724 on: June 23, 2018, 09:59:53 pm »
Strongs to the Zog family.
Remember the good times.
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« Reply #5725 on: June 24, 2018, 02:12:45 am »
I am humbled by the support and messages from so many people here.

The posts here, the PM's, the Whatsapp messages, the emails.

Thank you all. I never knew I had so many friends.

The last 24 hours have been very hard, but seeing how so many people care does help to reduce the anguish.

Just last week my Father received his US Tourist visa after being refused the first time due to medical reasons. He worked so hard to try and get his health better, and he did succeed. I was so proud of him.

Unfortunately all the plans and dreams for the Christmas holiday with him and my son are gone.

I'll never hear his voice again, we'll never go fishing again.

Tomorrow morning I will go and sit on a pier at the lagoon and throw a line in. And remember the good times.  :'(
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« Reply #5726 on: June 24, 2018, 05:05:10 am »
I am lost for words :'( :'(

Strongs to you all in US and SA.

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Re: Life in America - I made the move.
« Reply #5727 on: June 24, 2018, 07:42:30 am »
Such sad, sad news. Condolences to the Zog family and wishing you guys strength in such a painful time.
 

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« Reply #5728 on: June 24, 2018, 10:24:12 am »
Sincere condolences Gary and Mrs Zog!

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« Reply #5729 on: June 24, 2018, 11:46:50 am »
So sad man  :'(

Condolences to you guys and the family. Remember the good times.

No words  :'(
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Re: Life in America - I made the move.
« Reply #5730 on: June 24, 2018, 02:00:28 pm »
I took comfort in these words in my own loss:

"Death is nothing at all. It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.

Let my name be the household word that it always was.
Let my name be spoken without effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolutely unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well. Nothing is past, nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before, only better; infinitely happier and forever."

Henry Scott Holland


I Did Not Die

Do not stand at my grave and forever weep.
I am not there; I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn’s rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and forever cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.

Mary E Faye

In closing, these words:

And in the stillness of the night, when the pain it really starts
Stretch out a little with your mind and draw me to your heart
For I am always right in there, always by your side
For you have been, all my life’s days, my joy, my love, my pride.


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Life is far too short to be taken too seriously.
I'm far too short to be taken too seriously.
 
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« Reply #5731 on: June 24, 2018, 06:38:12 pm »
@Fudmucker stunning words
 

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« Reply #5732 on: June 24, 2018, 06:56:35 pm »
@Fudmucker thank you. Nearly 3 months since my Dad passed away and your post came at the right time

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Re: Life in America - I made the move.
« Reply #5733 on: June 24, 2018, 07:46:34 pm »
Sorry to hear this. Not easy. May his memory be a blessing.
Just this morning while washing my hands I notice the scratches and scars from my weekends DIY and I realise they look like my dads did, he was always busy in the garden or garage. We carry those memories for life.
 

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Re: Life in America - I made the move.
« Reply #5734 on: June 24, 2018, 08:13:04 pm »
Thinking of him flying to meet up with Grandma again.
There where eternal peace prevail.

Strongs to all staying behind.

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« Reply #5735 on: June 25, 2018, 02:19:23 am »
I took comfort in these words in my own loss:

"Death is nothing at all. It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by my old name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.

Let my name be the household word that it always was.
Let my name be spoken without effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolutely unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well. Nothing is past, nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before, only better; infinitely happier and forever."

Henry Scott Holland


I Did Not Die

Do not stand at my grave and forever weep.
I am not there; I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn’s rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and forever cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.

Mary E Faye

In closing, these words:

And in the stillness of the night, when the pain it really starts
Stretch out a little with your mind and draw me to your heart
For I am always right in there, always by your side
For you have been, all my life’s days, my joy, my love, my pride.


Thank you R. Beautiful words.
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« Reply #5736 on: June 25, 2018, 02:32:54 am »
I have written a few words on my Dad. The wound is still very fresh, so they were not easy. But writing them does help.


John van Vuuren     27 August 1940 – 23 June 2018

John had many faults. He was a raging alcoholic for many years. He was in and out of treatment facilities many times, always falling back to the bottle. And the alcoholic John wasn’t always a nice guy. He was married 5 times, twice to the same woman. He was divorced 4 times, mainly because of the booze.

But despite his faults he had several passions. He loved sports, all sports, but especially athletics, rugby and motor racing. He had Springbok colours as an athletics coach in the 70’s. I remember visiting him many times and going along to athletics meetings where my step-brother and I would get the autographs of the top SA athletes.

He supported the Blue Bulls and the Springboks, and wasn’t shy about it. And he never missed a F1 Grand Prix on TV if he could help it. Michael Schumacher was one of his hero’s.

But the one passion of his that always brought us back together was fishing. When I was a little baby my dad, who worked underground as an electrician on the mines, would get home in the afternoon and push me around the Florida Lake in my pram, catching perch which he would cook for supper. He would tell me the story about the time when I was a toddler and he took me fishing. I saw a little bird walking across the lily-pads, and tried to follow it. He had to jump into the water to retrieve me.

Later years we would go fishing at Harties and we would catch carp and kurper. We would take them home and he would make fish cakes that he would deep fry. They were delicious. Years later we were in Margate together and we went deep sea fishing on a charter boat. We both caught tuna, but mine was taken by the “taxman”. Right up until before I came to the USA we would go fishing for Bass at every opportunity we could. With the advent of smart phones we would trade pics of our catches when we weren’t fishing together.

It was in about 1989 that John had a terrible car crash in Pretoria. He was taken to 1 Military Hospital because HF Verwoerd was too far away and he was critically injured. He arrested and was revived before arriving at 1 Mil, and again when he arrived. He spent 2 weeks in ICU in 1 Mil before he was stable enough to be transferred to HF where he spent another 2 weeks in the ICU there.

When he was finally discharged from hospital he went to stay with his brother in Krugersdorp, and at church he met Cheryl. They were married in about ’91, and she was the best thing for him. He was sober since that car crash. I was so proud of him for staying off the booze finally.

But all the years of working underground, and the booze, had taken its toll. Dad had  2 or 3 heart attacks in the last 10 years, and he got stents and balloon angioplasty’s. After my step sister Lindel died 2 years ago, and my step mom Cheryl died just over a year ago his health deteriorated. It was as if he had lost a lot of his will to live. Early this year I asked him to get his US visa so that he could be my son’s chaperone this December. He was very excited about getting to come over, but on his first visa application they refused him because his health was so bad. He was terribly disappointed, but he worked at getting his health better, and he finally got his US visa approved last week.

I was so looking forward to seeing my dad again. The three generations fishing together again. But on Friday night he had another heart attack. My sister called me at work at around 4pm local time in an absolute state. She told me that he was having the heart attack, and that the paramedics were on their way. She was leaving Pretoria for Krugersdorp when she called. I packed away my stuff, got in my truck, and went home.

On the way home I just had that feeling, I just somehow knew that this time it would be the big one. The whole way home I talked to my Dad, and told him that it was ok. That he could let go, that he could go be with Cheryl. That I would understand and be ok. Around 5:30 my sister let me know that she was at Leratong Hospital, and that they were again resuscitating my Dad. Eventually at about 6:45 I asked my sister if she was ok with asking the doctor to terminate the resus. She agreed, because as a paramedic with over 20 years of experience, and having been in that same situation many many times, I knew that there was no prognosis. The doctor agreed, and they stopped.

John was declared dead just after 7pm US time, around 1am SA time on 23 June.

You lived a long life Dad, and you were loved by so many. Enjoy your rest, you have earned it.

Tight lines Dad.
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« Reply #5737 on: June 25, 2018, 02:40:58 am »
Remember the good times Gary.

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« Reply #5738 on: June 25, 2018, 07:31:04 am »
Sorry for your loss. Very kind words. Thanks for sharing.
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« Reply #5739 on: June 25, 2018, 08:37:45 am »
So Sorry for your loss Gary, condolences to you and the family
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